Thoughts about Pain and Healing



A psychologist who treats clients with pelvic pain told me recently, “Enjoy your healing”. In the depths of pain I could never have wrapped my mind around this.. but now I can see that painful challenge can also be an unfolding process of self-discovery and growth.





I used to think: “My pain is rearing up and pulling me out of life.” Now I understand: “My pain is signaling me to get the most out of my life.”






“What you hold emotionally can bind your body. Letting go helps love and life to flow.”

Photo by: Katherine Velicki






When my pain reared up I used to tell myself, “My body is broken; I have a chronic pain condition.” Now I think: “My body is a messenger that has been finely tuned through my struggle. What is it teaching me today?”







“It takes a lot of energy for the mind to convince the heart that it is not hurting.”





“Sometimes you need to look within in order to climb out.”







My body no longer screams in pain when I’m stressed. But when it whispers, I listen.








“It is possible to experience physical or emotional pain and not suffer.”




“Sometimes pain can be a call to clean house, to clear out hurt and resentment from the past, to gather up beliefs that constrain and bind. And when you dump this stuff at the curb, the love within has more room to live and breathe.”




“Escape from the Chronic Pain Trap” was the title of a recent essay in the Wall Street Journal. Let’s change it to: “Heal through the Chronic Pain Experience”







When you find yourself frustrated with someone who is in chronic physical or emotional pain, consider how hard it would be to remain calm and collected with your feet in the fire.

Ten Healing Thoughts

To celebrate the one year anniversary of the book/website- here are ten healing thoughts which were posted on Facebook this past year. Did you miss any?



1. What you create is a unique expression of you. It doesn’t need to be validated by the world in order to be true, valuable and right.






2. Thinking you’ve “arrived” really limits how far you can go. It is the recognition of the unknown that opens up the possibility of experiencing it.






3. We often have no idea how broken we are until we start fixing ourselves.






4. When it gets really windy in life, stay grounded and go with the flow.





5. I recently heard these song lyrics…”We will get there. Heaven knows how we will get there. But we know we will.” Believing you can be better helps you get there.






6. When the path seems unclear, have faith that you are still moving forward.






7. When times get tough, consider switching your perspective of yourself and others from “problems to manage” to “people to love.”





8. Compassion is all about connection and equality. It is moving from feeling “for” someone to feeling “with” them.




9. What is intimacy? Iben Larssen, my life coach on this journey to wellness, once described intimacy as: “into me you see”. As we heal, we gradually and gently inch toward intimacy.




10. Personal growth is like a pulsating rhythm- constriction becomes expansion, and when this new point feels tight and restrictive it breaks open and expands once again. This growth pulses ever outward- pushing the boundary of what IS to become what is possible.


Photo credits: 1- Mariane Gabriel; 3,4- Kelly Hughes; 5-Tom Heimerman; 8,10- Mary Clare Carlson